Friends get upset during movie night because the group orders food she cannot eat, as well as food she can, and it makes her feel left out: 'After eating awkwardly in a group, they both said they were going, and that was the last we spoke.'

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María Cetra • Writer
Aug 2, 2026 1:00 PM EDT

There's nothing wrong about being a picky eater, but there's no need to make it everyone's problem.

Being a picky eater is actually quite isolating. I can talk about it because I'm one of them. As a vegetarian that can't even smell some foods without gagging, you can't imagine how hard it is to accept an invitation to a house when you know you won't be able to eat most of the food they are going to have. And going with your own tupperware can be taken the wrong way by some hosts. Even though I get the struggle the girl in this story had, it's not an allergy. Not liking food doesn't mean that nobody can have that thing that I hate. You have whatever food you like. I'm not going to try it or be super near it, but I would never judge you or mistreat you because you are eating something I don't like. You respect the fact that I eat weird. I respect that you like food that I don't. We each have our own things, and we shouldn't be judging others.

The story below is different. I completely get the fact that she wanted to order something different, and I partially get why she ate somewhere else. Because, let's face it, sushi has a really strong smell that some people cannot tolerate. What I do disagree with is that she was against other people ordering food she doesn't like. You don't have an allergy or health issue that forbids other people from eating certain foods near you. Therefore, you don't have a real reason to be complaining about what other people order.

There's nothing wrong about being picky with food. But there is with being judgy about what other people like. If your friends are respecting the fact that you won't eat certain things (as they should). Why would you make a bigger deal? There is no reason to make? They respect you and encourage you to order what you liked. Be the same way towards other people. They weren't leaving this girl out. They were simply doing what they liked, as was she. So stop with the defensiveness. They were being kind and welcoming. There was no reason to go MIA about this. 
 

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  • One month ago I hosted a movie night for my 5 girl friends in my apartment. I consider all of them close friends since they are basically all the friends I have here and they also went to my wedding. I had been planning this for over a month and I was really excited to watch the movie for a second time with my friends for a girls night in. Before the movie a friend called me to ask if it was ok to bring some fruit to make a drink, I told her yes since most of us are ok with eating anything
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  • Friends sitting around a table having some food. Representation.
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    Friends sitting around a table having some food. 

    Representation.

  • and I thought it was a nice gesture from her part. The other friend I know for around two years, brought dessert, which was great, however she is a bit of a picky eater and because the drink we made had fruits touching and soda she pointed that she needed to sit away because she could not even be near it. This made my other friend feel a bit bad because she had put a lot of thought into making this, but we were ok with it in the end.
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  • After the movie we start talking on what to order, we ask her first because we know it would be the hardest to choose and she chooses chicken, then another friend mentions she did not want chicken but wanted sushi. So we decided on order from two places. Then the friend who wanted chicken asked if the chicken was only for her, to which I reply No, we will all eat from both places (except the other friend who does not want the chicken). Then she started to say
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  • we singled her out because she does not eat sushi and she would throw up if she does. We mention the other friend did not want chicken so we were ordering something that at least all wanted to eat, and that the check will be divided only from the place each ate, obviously we will nor charge for something you did not want/ate. However she continued to say it wasnt fair, and after some discussion deciding what type of chicken she went to another room, got on her phone
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  • and did not speak another word to the rest of us, only whispering to her best friend who was also invited After eating awkwardly in a group they both said they were going, and that was the last we spoke. That was one month ago. I sent a short message to the group chat thanking everyone for coming, she read, never reacted or replied. I then sent a reel to the same groupchat, again no reply on her end. I did not think it was such a
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  • big deal, but maybe I was wrong. AITA for not apologizing or for taking the stand I took and have something each of the people who wanted specifically in the order?
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  • People sitting on a blanket while they watch a movie being projected in the garden. Representation.
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    People sitting on a blanket while they watch a movie being projected in the garden.

    Representation.

  • Remarkable-Train8231 Your friend is a nutcase. NTA
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  • Familiar-Fox514 NTA. At all. You ordered food that everyone wanted, including her. She's just mad that others were enjoying things she doesn't like. Honestly, I'd keep the distance going in the friendship. Who has time to cater that much to one person?
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  • fulltimetroll12 NTA, you made sure everyone had something to eat. She didn't have to eat sushi or pay for it, so I don't see how she was being singled out.
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  • -Raveheart- I'm slightly confused as to which she is which in this scenario of 5 she's - using (fake) names might have helped to make it clearer for those of us who are struggling with reading comprehension If I got it right, one She - is a picky eater to the extent of not wanting to even sit near a drink where fruit is touching other fruit / soda - wanted chicken and then got upset
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  • that everyone else didn't just want chicken, some even had the audacity (/jk) to want food that She (again) didn't like to the point of having a strong physical reaction to it - failed to regulate her emotions and instead snubbed everyone by isolating herself and another party attendee to go gossip, then left together - ignored the hostess's post-event messages. This girl/woman has some very serious issues she needs to attend to.
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  • Do not pander to her whims any more than you already have - it would only validate her unreasonable behaviour.
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  • Gracetheface513 Obviously NTA and your friend is insufferable
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  • Friendly_Print7319 nta. u handled the food situation where no one is eating what they don't want to eat and pays what they ate, so i don't know why she is mad.
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  • Ryuuji-Akiyama NTA. Your friend may have some unresolved issues, but I'm afraid their resolution is likely beyond your control.
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